tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2421007530617008911.post1270349746960249317..comments2023-10-01T08:43:13.346-04:00Comments on New Me: A Fresh Start: Pride and a Re-realizationUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2421007530617008911.post-48459503889387419992011-01-11T12:25:02.368-05:002011-01-11T12:25:02.368-05:00Thanks for the great comments to all three of you!...Thanks for the great comments to all three of you!NewMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11172571318565002724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2421007530617008911.post-33916187032905650582011-01-10T21:58:02.009-05:002011-01-10T21:58:02.009-05:00Reaching peace with food was why I stopped my weig...Reaching peace with food was why I stopped my weight loss blogging. It really is the ultimate goal because the rest can follow once you've mastered the psychology. I think that it's truly critical to "keep your eye off the prize" and focus on the process that will get you there. Too many people look at the scale as the end-all and be-all. The scale is offering the trophy, but it's the "training" that gets you that trophy that really matters, not the trophy itself. <br /><br />I think that modifying your relationship with food is not a rapid process and part of watching the number on the scale is that people want rapid results, but those results are generally not sustainable or can't be maintained without consistent psychological or physical misery. You know from my blog that I saw peace with food and a healed relationship with it as "the end" rather than reaching a goal weight. One inevitably will yield the other, but people rarely focus on this aspect. It's hard work, and it is work that you have to keep on top of. <br /><br />Last night, around 5:00 am, I experienced something I rarely have experienced in my life and that is being awakened by hunger (at the end of a 1600 calorie day full of very healthy eating, hardly a "low-calorie" day, though clearly one designed to continue my weight loss). As I lay t here in bed trying to go back to sleep, I fought a battle with my urges. I could get up and eat something and probably fall asleep faster, or use this as an opportunity to keep the mental muscles I've built to endure hunger when it's not a good time to sate it intact. I fought the urge, and went back to sleep. The thing is that when I woke up a couple of hours later (because my knees were aching), I wasn't hungry anymore. It was a phase that passed, and thankfully, one that hasn't happened to me more than once or twice a year.<br /><br />So, even when you make peace with food and can eat appropriate portions of all foods, it doesn't mean the battle is over. It just means you fight it less often and perhaps with more success. Sometimes the body pushes back a bit, and you have to hold the line, but, as you say, do so gently. Don't yell at yourself or punish your body or whatever abusive crap a lot of dieters do. Accept it and use that to build your psychological toolkit to achieve what you want, but allow yourself the time to build a really sound foundation.screaming fatgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2421007530617008911.post-72316219111211171612011-01-10T19:24:25.518-05:002011-01-10T19:24:25.518-05:00This truly was a very good post. I have hypothyro...This truly was a very good post. I have hypothyroidism and have been successful with medication. However, I am deeply concerned about how my body will react when I end up going through menopause. I have no kids and my dr. says it will probably come earlier than expected (I'm 40 now). My sister in law has no children either and is 43. She's added 35 pounds to her frame and it's in large part due to entering menopause. <br />Our bodies just don't always want to work with us, do they? I think you have the right idea to embrace the fear. By doing that, you keep it close and can keep track of it. Maybe that's my answer, too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02206154638036351459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2421007530617008911.post-80427923781013729582011-01-10T11:27:06.775-05:002011-01-10T11:27:06.775-05:00Great post - I know a "large" part of my...Great post - I know a "large" part of my recent weight gain came after my recurrence scare/more surgery in '04...<br />After all, what do most people envision when you think of a cancer patient? An emaciated, balding, weak & helpless wreck of a person...<br />So I know this barrel-shaped abdomen of mine is my own not-so-little fortress to crouch within.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.com